If you find your teen is very negative about themselves or others, you may find it valuable to talk about reframing.
Turning the negative into positive, and you can start with words.
Here is a TED talk about reframing:
“Perspective is everything” by Rory Sutherland:
‘The circumstances of our lives may matter less than how we see them, says Rory Sutherland. At TEDxAthens, he makes a compelling case for how reframing is the key to happiness.’
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The list below can be used to talk about the power of reframing.
See if you can play a game together of changing negative words into positive using the guides below.
REFRAMING CHALLENGES INTO STRENGTHS
| Negative Frame | Positive Reframe 1 | Positive Reframe 2 | Challenge Virtue |
| Argumentative | Strong sense of justice | Passionate | Harmony |
| Attention Seeking | Speaks out | Expresses needs | Peacefulness |
| Bossy | Natural Leader | Good director | Listen |
| Clingy | Affectionate | Tactile | Independent |
| Conceited | Confident | Self assured | Humble |
| Defiant | Strong Belief | Courageous | Collaborate |
| Demanding | Assertive | Accepting | |
| Dependent | Connected | Loyal | Independent |
| Dramatic | Expressive | Emotionally aware | Calm |
| Fearful | Sensitive | Careful | Trust |
| Foolish | Fun & Free | Carefree | Responsible |
| Fussy | Specific Tastes | Strong sense of self | Easy going |
| Irritable | Communicate needs | Sensitive | |
| Impulsive | Spontaneous | Free-spirit | Structured |
| Loud | Confident | Exuberant | Gentle |
| Manipulative | Gets needs met | Clever | Trust |
| Mean | Power seeking | Boundaries | Kind |
| Messy | Learning | Flexible | Organised |
| Naughty | Exploring | Independent | Listens |
| Nosey | Curious | Inquisitive | Respectful |
| Quiet | Thoughtful | Reflective | Talkative, Open |
| Rigid | Ordered | Organised | Flexible |
| Shy | Inner directed | Cautious | Open |
| Silly | Good sense of humour | Sensible
Mature |
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| Sneaky | Inventive | Creative | Honest
Trustworthy |
| Slow | Easy going | Mindful | Energetic |
| Spoiled | Needs clear boundaries | Loved | Un demanding |
| Stubborn | Determined | Persistent | Reasonable
Flexible |
| Talkative | Good communicator | Enthusiastic | Quiet,
Listening |
| Talks back | Courageous | Honest | Respectful |
| Timid | Careful | Gentle | Courageous |
| Unfocused | Explorative | Curious | Focused |