Use reframing if your mentee is negative

If you find your teen is very negative about themselves or others, you may find it valuable to talk about reframing.

Turning the negative into positive, and you can start with words.

Here is a TED talk about reframing:
“Perspective is everything” by Rory Sutherland:

‘The circumstances of our lives may matter less than how we see them, says Rory Sutherland. At TEDxAthens, he makes a compelling case for how reframing is the key to happiness.’

The list below can be used to talk about the power of reframing.

See if you can play a game together of changing negative words into positive using the guides below.


Negative Frame Positive Reframe 1 Positive Reframe 2 Challenge Virtue
Argumentative Strong sense of justice Passionate Harmony
Attention Seeking Speaks out Expresses needs Peacefulness
Bossy Natural Leader Good director Listen
Clingy Affectionate Tactile Independent
Conceited Confident Self assured Humble
Defiant Strong Belief Courageous Collaborate
Demanding Assertive Accepting
Dependent Connected Loyal Independent
Dramatic Expressive Emotionally aware Calm
Fearful Sensitive Careful Trust
Foolish Fun & Free Carefree Responsible
Fussy Specific Tastes Strong sense of self Easy going
Irritable Communicate needs Sensitive
Impulsive Spontaneous Free-spirit Structured
Loud Confident Exuberant Gentle
Manipulative Gets needs met Clever Trust
Mean Power seeking Boundaries Kind
Messy Learning Flexible Organised
Naughty Exploring Independent Listens
Nosey Curious Inquisitive Respectful
Quiet Thoughtful Reflective Talkative, Open
Rigid Ordered Organised Flexible
Shy Inner directed Cautious Open
Silly Good sense of humour Sensible


Sneaky Inventive Creative Honest


Slow Easy going Mindful Energetic
Spoiled Needs clear boundaries Loved Un demanding
Stubborn Determined Persistent Reasonable


Talkative Good communicator Enthusiastic Quiet,


Talks back Courageous Honest Respectful
Timid Careful Gentle Courageous
Unfocused Explorative Curious Focused


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